We all know at least one person who has passed the age of 30 and still has no stable partner and shows no interest in starting a family. Today, we talk about how are those people who prefer to live in solitude and don't care about singleness.
The different types of singleness
Then I show you the different types of singleness that exist. And, as surely you have imagined, not all singles are exactly the same. There are different personalities that lead to singleness and to live without a partner. Let's see them!
First, there are independent singles. This type of singleness is given by a kind of assessment and analysis of the costs and benefits of having a partner. In a sense, it is the most "rational" type of singleness.
In general, these types of singles value very much the freedom they have as singles, and, although they recognize that a couple has many benefits, they consider that those benefits do not compensate for what is lost when one is matched.
Singleness with self-sufficiency
This type of singleness implies a way of being lonely by nature. This does not imply that they cannot maintain relationships for some time, but, in general, tend to prefer loneliness.
They are usually isolated and self-sufficient people, who do not consider loneliness to be something negative. Again, this does not mean they are hermits. They usually have friendships and occasional relationships. What they avoid are constant relationships.
Singles in isolation
This type of singleness is given by a difficulty in relating to people (or, at least, to maintain long-term and deep relationships). They look a bit like the previous ones, in the sense that they are self-sufficient. However, they do not enjoy their loneliness.
In general, this type of singleness is corrected over time, when there are some changes in life that also change your habits. And, in the end, people who choose this type of singleness, are usually people who simply have solitude habits that must change.
Singles without self-esteem
People with low self-esteem can reach a single situation based on their low regard for themselves. That is, they would like to have a partner, but they believe that they are incapable of being attractive to other people, and they do not even consider the attempt.
Existentialist singles have in common a rather negative outlook on life. They are deeply philosophical and spiritual people who have come to the conviction that life has little meaning, and that relationships do not mean anything by themselves either.
This implies that they do not want relationships. And not only because they consider that they will not contribute anything, but because they believe that the other person will also contribute nothing. Sometimes, there is this kind of "protection" towards the other possible person.
An important point to note here is that, as they merge with that idea, when they notice that a relationship brings something to them, they tend to block positive feelings, because that would be, in a sense, like betraying themselves.
Singles by ideology
This type of singleness is less frequent in our times, but it can be easily understood: Closing nuns or priests, for example, are single by ideology (Its ideology is a religion, but it is still an ideology).
It is less frequent to find secular ideologies, but it can also happen.
Transitional singles are people who assume that, at some point, they will be in a serious relationship. However, they are not yet prepared or have not found the right person. Therefore, they consider their single status to be transitional.
It can also happen because there is a transition of another kind. For example, when one doubts about his sexuality or when he is working to change some aspect of his life and considers that it is better to do it alone.
Singles by experience
By last, are single people from experience. That is, people who have had past relationships in those who have not enjoyed or in those who have suffered, and who, consequently, consider it better to be single.
In general, they are people who have developed a more or less elaborate discourse with the reasons why it is better to be alone. However, the truth is that this speech usually hides some of the previous types of singleness.
As you can see, the people who prefer to live in solitude and don't care about singleness They are not a homogeneous group. However, they do share some common features that should be known. And finally, remember that it is a lifestyle as legitimate as any other.
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